Whether you’re just jumping back into the dating scene or you come here often, the thrill of a new crush never goes away. But between butterflies and raging hormones, it can be difficult to know where you stand with someone. Especially if you just met them. Issa keeps running into Nathan and their acquaintance status jumped to friendship to flirtationship real quick. And what Issa isn’t about to do, is wait around for him to make the first move. Here are four tips on how to be bold with your crush.
Nathan hadn’t texted back for days, then suddenly he booked a flight with his crew and met Issa at Coachella. If Issa feels she deserves an answer then she should ask for one. And she did. She wasn’t accusatory and she wasn’t needy. But she wanted to know the truth so she asked him for it. Don’t try and look for clues and details in his texts, Insta posts, and little mannerisms when he finally pops back up again. Let him explain himself. It’s a lot easier to get to the truth that way.
2. Own Up
If you’re the one being called out, don’t get defensive and don’t play the games. It’s cowardly. This person is putting their pride on the line and being vulnerable by asking for an explanation. Executed correctly it means they care about you. Honor their vulnerability by offering some too. Nathan was afraid he was coming on too strong. It’s a habit of his. By being real and offering this to Issa, it gave her room to trust him and expect honest answers from him. And if you want this relationship to last more than a day the sooner you commit to honesty, the better.
3. Be Gentle
Touching is a form of flirting that a lot of people love to engage in and light consensual touches can be very intimate. It’s a physical way of expressing that you want to get closer. Men usually like a hand on the bicep. Women usually like a light hand on the small of her back when you’re both walking somewhere. It may be small and insignificant, but it means a lot to someone who’s interested in you. If they don’t like touching though, pull back, and let them come to you when they’re ready.
4. Be Forward
Let it be known what you want. Someone is looking for the best way to approach you. They’re trying to get your attention. If you like them back, make it a little easy for them. Nathan thought that being too forward to quickly was a bad thing, and maybe it was with other women he approached, but Issa likes forward. She didn’t want to wait through weeks of flirting, she wanted to be with him. Letting someone know what you want is the best way to get to where you’re going fast.
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